According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), 1 in 5 children deals with an emotional, mental, or behavioral disorder. Times of transition, uncertainty, and high stress can exacerbate that need. Unfortunately, only 20% of those children receive the help they need from a mental health professional. “The pandemic negatively impacted the mental health of children and adolescents by disruptions to predictability and routine, interruptions to normal socialization and relationship experiences, increased isolation, and uncertainty, and stress on family systems; this seems to have led to even more children in need of services," explains Caroline Fulton, PsyD, a child and adolescent psychologist at Northwestern Medicine Central DuPage Hospital.
Why It’s Difficult To Find Therapists
With legions of people scrambling for time with a therapist, squeezing in each child, and giving them adequate time, becomes a huge problem. Whether it’s via telehealth or in-person, appointments are booked very quickly. Parents may have to call several therapists to get a time for their child, and don’t always get calls back. If they get a response, considerable time can pass before an appointment is scheduled. “Our wait is probably 2-3 months for an appointment.,” explains Mary Alvord, PhD, co-author, “Conquer Negative Thinking for Teens”. “It’s a cascade [effect] of all these services cut down … and then the addition of greater demand and greater stress that has just accumulated over time. You put those together and there are long wait lists,” Dr. Alvord adds. When children find a coveted seat in a group session or become a regular client of a therapist, they tend to stay in therapy for longer periods of time. Experts say children aren’t “graduated” from therapy at the same rate as prior to COVID-19. “Some children may be in therapy longer due to the persistent nature of the challenges they are facing as well as the broad stress on the systems the child operates in, including their families, schools, and communities,” Dr. Fulton notes. The need for help, and the inability to get it right away, can leave both children and parents in a precarious position.
How to Cope While Waiting
Waiting for a child to get the help they need can be devastating for the child and their parents. “Parents often find it troubling to see their child struggling and not being able to get help as quickly as they would like. It’s a very helpless feeling,” states Dr. Fulton. She notes, however, there are steps caregivers can take to help the child feel less alone. “Parents … can let the child know ways they are trying to seek help. They can also encourage the child to continue to communicate about what he or she is thinking and feeling,” Dr. Fulton notes. There are other ways you can help improve your child’s mental health and well-being in the meantime.
Good Sleep Hygiene
Make sure your child is getting a good night’s sleep. Normal bedtimes can help establish a sense of routine and order. “Good sleep is critical to mood and well-being. Remove technology from your child’s room at night and consider having them use a basic alarm rather than a cell phone,” advises Dr. Fulton.
Engage Socially
The pandemic lockdown kept children and their friends six feet apart and isolated for long periods of time. Children can reconnect with activities, social relationships, and sports. They can also engage socially on a family level. Make sure to spend time with your child and eat meals together as a family. Being with others promotes a feeling of belonging and a sense of well-being.
Use Coping Tools
Get Outside! Research shows exposure to nature can improve a child’s mental, behavioral, and cognitive health. Try deep breathing, and mindfulness apps to help recalibrate mood and mental health. You can also seek out support groups and talk with your child’s pediatrician about resources. Of course, your child’s safety is the paramount concern. If your child is a danger to herself or others, call 911 and seek out emergency services. Waiting to receive help is not easy. Encouraging your child to talk, being an active listener, and putting coping strategies to work can help put them on the path to better mental health.
